Since we are right in the swing of Holiday season with every ones celebrations happening this week I have been thinking a lot about what the best gift to give is.
I think that, like it or not, I am giving out a lot of forgiveness this time around.
In many aspect of my life, I tend to forgive far too easily. To the point where I have been trampled on by those I have handed it out to.
There are many however, that I have had no reason to give my forgiveness to anymore. They are people who have been forgiven by myself, and many others too many times, enabling them to continue on their reckless, destructive path. I like many others, really never gave them forgiveness out of the kindness of my heart, but by making excuses for their behavior.
Some of those people read what I write here, some do not even know this blog exists. To all of those people, I forgive you. For the things that hurt me, and others near and dear to me.
I always have come to the point where my easy forgiveness builds up to frustration and resentment. I am putting that behind me, and truly from the bottom of my soul forgiving these people, and I am sure, actually I know for a fact, I have hurt some of these people. For that, to all of you, I am deeply sorry. I do not expect you to forgive me, now, or even ever. Forgiveness cannot be forced, or coerced, but only given freely, from the heart.
I also want to give the people the gift of reminding them, that no matter what has transpired in your life, it all happens for a reason.
The relationships you have lost, the fights you have lost, the material things you never received, all of it, every little bit of it, happened for a reason.
Sometimes, a relationship ends because it wasn't meant to last forever, even if that's what you thought you wanted, but because that person was brought to you to teach you something valuable, or in some way bring a gift to your life, that without them wouldn't exist.
A close friendship ended because you grew apart, but the wonderful memories will never leave you.
A loved one has gone from you, to show you what is precious about life.
Please keep in mind, that in life we never stop learning.
There will be grief, to remind us how much it means to be happy, hardships, so that we appreciate when we prosper, broken hearts, so we can be more careful with who we give our hearts to, tears, so that smiles warm our souls, illness so that we can take our good health for granted, and cloudy days, so that the flowers can really bloom when the sun shines!
Happy Hanukkah
Merry Christmas
Happy Kwanzaa
Blessed Yule
Happy Holidays
Peace and Love
B
